I turn 30 on 13th June and to mark this milestone, here are 30 life lessons from the first 30 years of my life:
1 – don’t measure your successes against the lives of other people. The way people present themselves online isn’t always an accurate representation of who they really are – it’s who they want you to think they are. You don’t need to achieve someone else’s bucket list to live a fulfilling life.
2 – sometimes a second chance is not enough. Sometimes it’s too fucking much. Don’t invest your time in people who aren’t worth it.
3 – People are generally good and want to do the right thing… but not all the time.
4 – Focus on what you have in common with people because it’s more than you think
5 – some people think they’re better than other people because of what they do or do not believe in, but those people shouldn’t be so humble because they’re not that fucking great.
6 – try not to worry about that which you cannot control. Roll with it.
7 – I am a humanist so I believe in the here and now because this is the only life we have so we have to make the most of it. Even if that means hiding in your house and drinking tea. Whatever makes you happy.
8 – try not to lecture people because it’s a big turn off. Genuine conversations are more fruitful, productive and interesting. You might learn something.
9 – the only time you should appraise what your neighbour has is if you’re making sure they have enough. Envy is ugly as fuck.
10 – sometimes you’ve just got to chuck it in the fuck it bucket.
11 – the more you have, the more people will want to take it. Usually the government.
12 – Remember that you know less than you don’t know.
13 – if you’re good at something people will say “never do it for free” but it’s okay to do it for free and without making a living from it. Sometimes the pressure of going pro can take the joy out of what you’re good at.
14 – if it sounds too good to be true it’s probably a pyramid scheme. Don’t join pyramid schemes.
15 – join a fucking trade union. No, it’s not a waste of money each month.
16 – good health is the most valuable thing you can have and we often take it for granted because we’re stupid and think we’re Luke Cage or something
17 – don’t skip your lunch breaks at work. Also, don’t eat your lunch at your desk.
18 – visit museums, art galleries and wildlife sanctuaries wherever you go. You never know what you’ll find.
19 – always take the time to say hello to friendly animals.
20 – people will make you doubt the things you say when it contradicts what they believe is true because they don’t want to doubt themselves. That’s their problem and not yours.
21 – get your fucking vaccinations and take your booster shots.
22 – don’t let other people make you feel ashamed for being who you are and doing what you want to do. Those who matter won’t mind and those who mind
don’t matter can go fuck themselves.
23 – children and teenagers should be allowed to discover their own identities and adults should trust them more.
24 – eat your fruit and vegetables but also eat cake and ice cream. Tell anyone who tells you otherwise (who isn’t a health professional) to go fuck themselves.
25 – explore other countries even if you have a shoestring budget. Sometimes, a tiny budget makes for the best adventures.
26 – don’t tolerate intolerance and try your hardest to not be a bystander.
27 – assert yourself and don’t apologise for things that aren’t your fault because you are made to feel that you should.
28 – sometimes you should trust your gut instinct.
29 – respect the harmless customs of people from other cultures and religions. People praying in a time of need doesn’t hurt anybody. Don’t be a dick about it.
30 – don’t let people tell you what to do. Even your family, and especially bloggers who swear a lot.